The Unfairness Issue a C- Mama Faces

Like many of us I scroll through my social media accounts multiple times per day.  I do it to keep up with family and friends, I do it to get bonuses from video games that I play on there, I also do it to keep informed on issues that I am passionate about it.

Unlike the C+ mamas, I'm not on there to share the accomplishments of my progeny or post pictures of them doing their "first" this or playing on some sports team.  Most days, I don't mind looking at these posts but every once in awhile when I'm having a bad C- day, it upsets me to see that nearly all of my friends are C+.  Oh, I don't deny them the pleasures, and frustrations, of raising their children and sharing those things, but to a C- mama, these are reminders of the things she doesn't have.

I even have friends that only have step-children, but they don't really get it either because they still have the privilege of raising those children either full or part time.  Oh, some of them understand what it's like to look at those pictures and wish that you were the one posting those pics of your own biological or adopted children.  Children that don't exist.

I also see countless comments from C+ mamas who complain of everything from pregnancy to birth and beyond.  They don't realize there are many women who see those comments that would give an arm, a leg, and a kidney to have those experiences; and those women wouldn't complain for a moment.  I especially get tired of the old "You don't have kids, so you just don't understand."

I've also sat and watched numerous news reports (and sadly updates on social media) where women do horrible things to their children and wondered how those wretched excuse for mothers could be given the precious gift that children are but women like me, who would love those children and care for them unconditionally, can't have them.   I've wondered how women who would die to give their children life aren't blessed with children but these abusive momsters (yes, I combined mom and monsters) can have child after child "on accident" without problems.

The C+ mamas don't understand that the C- mamas don't want pity or to be told, "When you have children..." or  "You'll have children one day and..." We simply want to have the children that we imagined having when we were little girls playing with our baby dolls.